So, as you think about the upcoming event, you start re-living all of the past disastrous first dates you have had—your short, curt responses to questions asked, your inability to keep a flow of conversation going, those awkward “good nights.” And the shallow breaths are now accompanied by that grinding in the pit of your stomach.
You want that individual to know you have a genuine interest in others and in him/her specifically.
You will be familiar with the table arrangements, the location and parking, the menu, and the people who will be waiting on you.
All of these things will let you focus on the person you are with.
You don’t have to blurt out that you are an introvert, but as you talk about your interests and hobbies, it is likely that that aspect of your personality will come out. Here are just a couple: An extrovert in this situation might very well be a bit confrontational and announce that the date is over. Have a friend text you about an hour in and have a signal to text back.
Introverts tend to bite their tongues and endure the pain for the duration. Then the phone call can come that presents a situation that requires your immediate attention. When you return, explain that you are ill and really need to go.