When I confronted him, he didn't understand why I was upset.
He said that having sex online was harmless and a way to "get off" without breaking his marriage vows (we've been married 10 years). A: This is a situation I see more and more often as the Internet becomes a staple in homes.
In those cases, there is absolutely no danger of STDs.
I discovered that he's been surfing porn sites and going to chat rooms to have sex with other women online.
That way you have the opportunity to say, "Yes, I'll do that," or, "No, I won't." You can also ask what prompted him to think that he was doing right by you in this marriage by finding sexual satisfaction online. Your husband may have sincerely thought that he was not straying from your marital vows, or he may be using the technicality that there was no physical contact to dodge the issue that he feels sexually dissatisfied in the marriage.
Evaluate yourself as well: Have you been shutting him out sexually? In either case, talk about what sexual fulfillment means to both of you.
But, make no mistake about it, it can create havoc in your life.
Potential areas of harm include: personal neglect, compulsive preoccupation with checking and clicking, depression, and marital discord.