Don’t even think about posting a dating advert without a photo. You meet, and the blood drains from their face as they realise that your photo was taken 10 years, five stone and 500 wrinkles ago. You don’t have to write someone an epic love letter (please don’t) – just pick out a couple of appealing points in their ad and write a quick intro email. Some rookies assume that they must answer every email, even if it’s “thanks, but no thanks”. “Thanks but no thanks” can feel more hurtful than no reply.
A picture-less ad says: “I am so ugly I didn’t want to risk a photo,” “I am married,” or “I am on the run from Broadmoor.” Everyone who likes your main photo will want to see more. Whether you’re a man or a woman, a photo with your shirt off makes you look desperate and/or only interested in sex. This is a cruel fact of life for online dating beginners, especially men. Likewise, you won’t “keep them keen” by making them wait days for a reply. Don’t allow an email conversation to drag on for weeks without a date.
Specific information does more than make you sound interesting – it also gives potential dates something to write to you about.
“I asked my friend to describe me, and here’s what he wrote…” is a cop-out.
You’re two grown-ups, not a sugardaddy and his gold-digger.
In the end the right person will accept you for who you are, baggage and all.'Profiles with 100 to 200 words received 10 per cent more messages, and users with positive identifiers such as confident and outgoing, received 23 per cent more incoming messages and 4 per cent more replies to their outgoing ones.
'It's encouraging when you see a profile where a man specified books, music and fitness as interests because it makes them appear well rounded,' says online dater Lauren Keith, who is currently dating someone she met on Plenty Of Fish.'It's off-putting when a man only seems interested in going out with his mates and getting drunk.
Those who mention the same words in their opening message get 35 per cent fewer replies.'Spelling mistakes I can live with, but if you approach online dating with text speak the only way you're getting a reply is if you've got limited wifi because you’re volunteering in rural Africa, or Joe Manganiello. You're welcome.'Women prefer outdoors shots of men because they're likely to be taken by a friend (which shows that he's social and popular), and probably show him doing something active and rugged (which we also like).
At match.com, we've found that people simply don't have time to study a photograph to work out which one is you!