Since most people are insecure, a person who is secure has power and influence over others; even if they are not otherwise powerful. It often comes with age and wisdom (although some people never find it).
Coming to terms with who you are is the first step in obtaining happiness in life. There have only been a handful of people throughout history who have obtained this level of confidence, and most of them have gone on to be great spiritual leaders. Those who work on themselves and gain confidence early on will have a much easier time navigating the challenges of life.
Accommodating is the adjective form of the verb accommodate, and it’s used to describe those who are cheerfully willing to make small adjustments to help you out.
The waiter who is happy to serve the dressing on the side, give you extra cheese on the burger, and swap French fries for mashed potatoes, all because that's how you want it?
They’re comfortable enough to be themselves, even if other people don’t like it. The unfortunate consequence is the annoyance of everyone around them, who secretly look for an escape.
A secure person can tolerate, and often enjoys silence.
This level of self-doubt is extremely destructive to a person’s life and is often the root of almost all their problems.
Extreme insecurity is usually marked by an obsession with gaining the approval of other people.
Conversely, a person who has learned to create their own energy is free to give the excess to other people.
Here are some common signs that indicate insecurity: Insecure people tend to be very sensitive to critique and respond with defensiveness.
They aren’t comfortable enough with themselves to accept that they might be flawed. They’re open to hearing about ways they might improve.
If they disagree with the criticism, they don’t try to argue because they’re happy with who they are. They fill every void with meaningless chatter, almost to avoid having to reflect on themselves.